Dharmacharya Shantum Seth
On the evening of my marriage, my mother in law told me and my wife... In a marriage, there are grounds for divorce, every day. The practice is to focus on the grounds for marriage. "
It reminded me of my teacher, the Buddhist monk, Thich Nhat Hanh's advice to focus on what is healing and healthy; and in that way, get the nourishment and strength to accept and transform one's difficulties and suffering. He was echoing the first teachings of the Buddha given in the Deer Park at Sarnath, India.